Judging or Accepting?

Human nature just cracks me up some days. We all do it, and by it, I mean judge. God says judge not lest you be judged. But our natural tendency is to judge those around us, or is it simply part of the decision making process?

What actions or thoughts take a simple observance and turn it into a judgement? Are we judging if we choose not to spend time with a particular person because they are just not our type of people? In the hour of bullying that is upon us, there are many people in this world that perhaps haven't found their "peer group". Is it our job to include them in ours when it really isn't a good fit? Don't get me wrong, I try to include everyone and really struggle when I feel someone is not being included. However, where I struggle is when there is a person, who you know has been invited to, been treated kindly, been included but somehow they still just don't mesh with your group. Is it your problem?

Where do you draw the line? When have you invested too much time &energy?

I'm not sure there is a simple answer to this. In light of bullying being an epidemic, and people feeling like they have no one in this world, how much of this is the fault of the "bully" or is it a lack of taking responsibility for one's own happiness?

I feel bad for people who feel alone in this world, I get it, I've been there, but I've always had to make changes, hard changes, to rectify my own happiness. By labeling "bullying", are we simply giving kids (and adults) a reason to feel sorry for themselves?

Let's face it. Life is full of choices and with every choice there is a consequence, so what happens when someone has made a choice that perhaps makes them the laughing stock of those around them... Ok, perhaps people should focus on their lives and butt out and let people make their bad decisions, but sometimes it's those bad decisions that push everyone around you away from you, that force you to be strong and get out of it! What about those who aren't strong enough, who can't seem to get out of a slump even when everyone around them is supporting them, they still have thoughts of suicide, or loneliness, or inadequacy? Are we enabling them to feel sorry for themselves by giving them a label such as "I'm being bullied?"

I have a tendency to play the victim in life, but as I get older, as I get wiser, I realize that you can't play victim and survive in this society. People are harsh, mean, people expect you to "buck up", "get over it". And truly honestly, when I made this change in my life, I'm way happier.

There's no strength in fighting, there's no strength in feeling like the world is against you, so when you start feeling this way, find something you love doing and do it until you own it. We're all good at something and just cause I'm not good at what my best friend is good at doesn't mean we can't be best friends, it just means we need to accept each other's differences and stop judging, both ourselves and others!